We can't control our children's
challenging behavior,
but what we can control is how we react.
Can you relate?
You want peace and connection in your home, and the ability to successfully guide your children based on your Islamic values.
But then there’s school, the laundry, and (what feels like!) the 100th sibling argument between the kids. So your good intentions repeatedly get "hijacked" by the daily overwhelm of parenting.
And then at the end of the day you feel guilty. You feel far from modelling the rahma that the Prophet ﷺ showered children with. And you feel powerless to stop it, because your endless to-do list awaits you, including dinner that needs to be put on the table, like pronto.
Does this sound like you?
You wish you could be a calmer parent, but find yourself lashing out, snapping and yelling way more than you’d like. Cue the Mom guilt...
You want more cooperation with your children, but just don’t know how to achieve that, so you find yourself resorting to punishing. More Mom guilt. Ugh.
You strive to connect with your kids by playing or spending quality time with them, but find it hard to be fully present because of the overwhelm and exhaustion of daily mom life.
You want your child to feel loved, have good memories of their childhood, and help them with their emotions, but you feel you can barely manage your own emotions.
You find yourself confused by the “parenting experts”! Some say naughty corner, others say time-out, some say no punishments. Sigh; what’s the right way?! You wanna get it right for your children but you often doubt + second guess your parenting choices.
And so you feel stuck in a cycle of overwhelm and feel powerless to change things...wanting so bad to fulfill this beautiful Amana but not knowing how to confidently, effectively and calmly address your parenting challenges.
You Are Not Alone.
Salaams, I'm Yusur!
There was a time after my 4th daughter was born when I really struggled too, and felt like I was merely surviving motherhood...
I told myself that if my children would JUST listen, then I could maintain my cool as a mom. Over time, I sounded more like a drill sergeant than a loving mother. Yikes.
When my daughters hit their pre-teen years, I reached the breaking point. I felt there were more power struggles and disconnection in my home, instead of the joy and peace that I wanted for my family. It was painful to feel like I was failing at my most important role: being a mother.
But here's the good news...
After having a conversation with a mentor, I realised that I had to begin taking responsibility for my own emotional baggage that I was bringing to my parenting. I needed to learn to manage my parenting triggers and I (painfully) noticed the lack of empathy I had for myself and my children.
My aha moment came when I was reminded that our children are an “amana” - a trust from Allah - and that they belong to Him alone!
Now I know you already know that (I thought I did!), but have you really internalized it?
That day, I really got it. Because if we get that our children belong to Allah, then we get that they are whole, and they are not a project for us to fix (phew!). We can lovingly guide them, yes, but ‘fix’ them? Nope!
I learnt about emotional regulation and started to come from a place of love and connection in my interactions with my children. I experienced more joy in parenting, while trusting in Allah’s perfect plan for them.
More About Yusur…
Yusur Hassan is a mother of 4, and has been on her parenting journey for over 20 years and homeschooling for 16 years. She has helped many Muslim mothers confidently and effectively guide and teach their children, all while nuturing loving and lasting relationships with them.
As a a certified parenting coach, Yusur has studied with local scholars in halaqaat, and has taught workshops to hundreds of Muslim Moms both locally and internationally.
She has been active in the muslim community by providing parenting programs for masjids, islamic organizations, and online through Amana Parenting. She’s also helped found 2 Muslim homeschool cooperatives, and facilitated a Moms’ suppport group at the local masjid.
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Discover the 4 Foundational Building Blocks
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Your Emotions and Triggers
How to identify and manage your emotional triggers, so that you can respond to your child’s upsetting behavior peacefully and constructively.
Your Child’s Emotions
How to teach and guide your child in identifying and managing their big emotions - so that they can better manage their behavior.
Cooperation and Loving Connection
How to increase your child’s willingness to listen through their loving connection and positive interactions with you - as shown in the Prophet’s ﷺ way.
Mindful Discipline Approach
How to peacefully set appropriate expectations, boundaries and consequences that work based on Islamic values and goals - so that you can eliminate power struggles and teach responsibility.
